I really appreciate your response, Beth, and I agree with many of your points.
However, I never said that I hated these women. The very women who "inspired" me to write this piece are very dear friends of mine. Some of whom reached out to me after reading this to apologize and understand how they can support me without compromising their other values.
The sustainable change cannot begin until those who have continued to support the system that is causing the hurt and pain (whether willfully or ignorantly, it doesn't matter) are willing to recognize their role in perpetuating it. Calling to essentially "kiss and make up" without talking about and healing the pain is why we've found ourselves in a powder keg of anger.
I firmly believe that we can do this from a place of love and ditch the niceties that keep us from having the honest conversations.