Thank you, Julie! I appreciate the non-American perspective in this conversation.
There is a vast difference between reconciling our differences and moving toward a place of peace and this idea of "let's all get over it and move on," which is what I'm speaking to here. What we are seeing is the standard Christian response of forgiveness without reconciliation, which I struggle with because I was raised that God had an unending fountain of grace and forgiveness, but that I also had to repent in order to be worthy of it.
I fully believe that when true equality exists, peace is a natural by product.
When 49% of Americans voted to uphold this system (regardless of their reasons for doing so), it shows that there is still plenty of work to be done before peace can be achieved. You simply cannot have healing without recognizing the hurt that has happened.
I do believe that we can do it in a non-violent and loving manner, but I think that people still think that you have to be nice in order to be effective in influencing change. If you look at the teachings of Dr. King, he was non-violent, but he was not nice. In order to heal, we are going to have to have some really ugly conversations. As long as they come from a place of love, they will be fruitful.